So frustrated with everything! Maybe frustrated’s not the word, maybe overwhelmed? I always like to be optomistic, but it seems that things can only get worse. Mom has been moved to another room, and is now on her second roomate. As you might expect this has totally confused mom, and has really affected her attitude. She is becoming more agressive, and angry. Her mood had been ok while she was in a room by herself but now she is confined to about an eight by sixteen foot space, with a curtain separateing her an her roommate.
Her new roomate moved in about a week ago. Her name is Nell and she has Parkinsons and is confined to a wheelchair. She is scared in her new surrondings, and being around mom may not help her. Nell has five children and they are trying to make her feel as comfortable as possible. They hung a nice pendelum wall clock up on the wall for her, and mom now insists that is her clock and she wants it back. Mom did have the room to herself for about a week, after they moved her first roomate out. Mom is convinced the clock has been hanging there all along. She told me last night she had the clock since she was a little girl, and that her father gave her the clock. There is no reasoning with a person who has Alzheimers, and the sooner I come to grips with this the better off I will be. I tried to explain to mom the clock was not hers but she became angry and told me.. “dont tell me thats not my clock, it damn sure is!” She has already tried to take the clock off the wall once while Nell’s daughter was there and she told her it was not her clock and she could not take it. I was not there and the nurse had to try and calm mom down. Im not sure what i am going to do with this situation, but I may try to buy the same clock and see if i can convince her roommates daughter to take it off the wall so mom can think she got her clock back! There is always going to be some issue with another person in the room though. I think our best option would be to try to get mom back in a room by herself!
Mom doesn’t know what city she is in, or how long she has been at Remarkable. Of course she constantly wants to go home. She asks what happened to her house, and her car, and how is all of her care being paid for? Mom has been at remarkable for a year and a half now and doesn’t remember any of it. Everyday she thinks she just got there or she has been there for only a few days. We take one day at a time, and some are better than others.
If we can focus on something positive we can have some quality time and enjoy our time together. Mom has always loved animals and she enjoys seeing max when I bring him. We have been watching Animal Planet videos called Toon Cute Kittens, and she loves them!It is one of the few times when she seems happy.